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Guiding. Shaping. True.

By Dr. Al Hearne II

 

Romans 13:10, “Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.”

Throughout October and November, we walked through how God shapes love within us and how that love grows into action. Then in December, we lifted our eyes to Christ Himself. We learned that love came near, love was announced, and love began with God’s initiative. Now, as we approach the end of December, Scripture turns our focus toward what comes next. Jesus does not simply reveal God’s love. He calls us to live it.

Paul tells us that love fulfills the law, meaning that everything God desires can be fulfilled in how we treat one another. Our words, thoughts, and actions must all flow from the same place: a heart shaped by Christlike love. Love becomes the guiding principle that directs our steps, shapes our decisions, and defines our way of life.

Think of a family walking a trail together. The path is uneven. Some steps require care. One person may slip, another may lag. Yet the group stays together because someone reaches out a steady hand or slows their pace. In the same way, love is the hand extended. Love is the patient pace. Love is the choice to do good when it would be easier to only think of ourselves.

When Paul says that love “does no wrong,” he is not describing a love that is passive or cautious. He is describing a love that is careful with others. Love watches its words so they do not wound. Consider a moment when a child's simple mistake was met with a parent's harsh word. The child, hurt and confused, retreats into silence. Yet, the same parent later offers a gentle apology, acknowledging the mistake and offering words of encouragement. The child's spirit lifts, and healing begins. Love pays attention to others' needs. Love asks how its choices affect those nearby. This kind of love actively protects, builds up, and blesses.

Jesus modeled this kind of life perfectly. His love moved Him toward people others overlooked. His love shaped how He spoke, corrected, forgave, and sacrificed. Every action grew from and was guided by love. As followers of Christ, God calls us to live this same way.

Therefore, love must guide our daily decisions. At home, love leads us to be patient in moments of irritation. At school, love motivates us to listen before reacting. In friendships, love teaches us to encourage more than we criticize. In all our relationships, love becomes the compass that keeps us on the path God desires.

As December draws to a close, we shift from celebration to calling. Christmas shows us the love of Christ. Now we carry that love forward. We walk into a new year with a new pattern for our hearts: love that leads.

Application

This week, help your family reflect on how love can guide choices in everyday moments. At dinner or bedtime, encourage each family member to name one choice they made that helped someone else and describe how it made them feel. Invite them to share 'what moved my heart and what I did.' Then ask everyone what choice they could make tomorrow to reflect Christ's love more deeply.

Encourage your children to think of small, specific ways they can bless someone: include a friend who feels left out, speak kindly when frustrated, or help a sibling without being asked. These small actions help them see that love is not only a feeling; it is something we choose.

As a family, choose one act of love to practice together this week. It might be helping a neighbor, writing a thank-you note, or quietly doing a chore for someone. Write the act on a card and place it somewhere visible. Treat it as a reminder that love is not a once-a-year idea. It directs our steps daily.

Reflection – Ask your children to reflect upon the following questions:

Before jumping into these questions, take a brief moment of silent reflection together. Encourage your children to think deeply about these ideas on their own.

• Why do you think Paul says that love fulfills God’s law?
• How does love guide the way we treat others?
• What is one choice you can make this week that shows Christ’s love?

Growth in Action

• For younger children: Create a simple footprint craft. Trace your child’s feet on paper and write the word “Love” inside each one. Explain that our steps should follow Jesus’ way of love. Place the footprints somewhere they will see often.
• For older children or teens: Invite them to consider a situation at home or school where love could change the outcome. Encourage them to write down one choice they will make differently this week. It might be offering help, being patient, or apologizing where needed. Celebrate their follow-through later in the week.
• As a family: Bundle up and take a short walk together, even around the block. As you walk, talk about how love guides our steps, just as footprints mark a snowy path. End with a prayer, thanking Jesus for showing us how to live.

Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank You for sending Your Son to show us what love looks like. Help us to walk in that love each day. Teach us to make choices that honor You and bless others. Guide our steps with Your grace so that our lives reflect the love that fulfills Your law. In Jesus’ name, Amen.